We can do anything if we believe - anything both in our marriage and in our lives. Belief blossoms from confidence & esteem. It’s the undergirding pin to keeping everything intact. Unfortunately, many of us are fragmented and damaged bc of past mistakes and trauma, causing our confidence to be weakened. These unfortunate experiences have left us wounded inside yet we fight on despite the nagging sense of unworthiness. We’re strong (or at least want to be). It is not our desire to play or even seem like the victim. We don’t want to be weak. Yet it seems that it is our own weakened perception of ourselves that is the silent influencer that we struggle get past constantly. It’s ongoing. But I’m here to tell you, we can persevere. It just takes commitment to training.
One thing about working out is it usually begins with forced obedience. You force yourself to get up early. You force yourself to show up at the gym. You force yourself to run or even to do a dreaded burpee. Many who workout effortlessly today, started out by making or forcing themselves do it in the beginning. In very much the same way, we have to train ourselves to become more confident to a achieve any goal - even the goal of a good marriage. Yes, confidence is absolutely a huge factor in your role as a wife. You have to think you can before you can. Just as with anything - you have to develop as a wife. It’s not automatic nor is it easy. But once you set your mind and put appropriate actions into place to build yourself up with assurance - soon you’ll believe you can do this wife thing and you will.
I know marriage was suppose to be our reward for dating. You know - we supposedly won. Ha ha! Truth is - You did win even if it doesn’t feel like it all the time. It will & can be rewarding but only after you start working out - “marriage style.” Saying “I do” simply gave you access to title/role, but you still have to work it for the glory. What’s the “marriage style” workout you ask? Well, it’s when better becomes worse, when richer becomes poorer, and when health becomes sicker. That’s the marriage style workout and believe me it goes after every muscle in you. The thing about a good workout is it typically calls on what’s in you to outlast the resistance and it typically leaves you sore for a few days. So, how you train is important for your role as wife. Training is all about what you take in and what you do in preparation for that “marriage style” workout. You know what you eat, digest, consume, and absorb. What’s in you is what is there to sustain when the “marriage style” workout is taking place. How deep is your preparation? 🏋️♀️
Floyd Mayweather is a champion in the boxing ring bc he trains to be champion. His regimen is a champion’s regimen and he is intentional about it. Likewise, we have to train for our role as a wife. And it will be our preparation that will build our confidence as a wife and ultimately get us ready for that “marriage style” workout. Being confident doesn’t necessarily mean “all is well” or even pleasing. It just means we ready to guard our interest & pursue the better outcome. As a wife, confidence in ourselves breeds confidence in our marriage. Here at First Wives Club, we are committed to helping to build your confidence and helping you train to win. It’s absolutely ok to invite other wives that may benefit from First Wives Club. #firstwivesclub #FWClive
Author: Denise Taylor
I’m on a mission to help professional women thrive. Hear me loud & clear... Don’t Settle. You can have it all. I live a blessed life & you can too.