The thing that matters beyond anything is what we think about ourselves. Everything starts there and is viewed through that lens. I have to work on my esteem daily bc of my “baggage” that often makes me feel unworthy, not pretty & less valued. I found that I wasn’t easy to love bc I didn’t truly feel I deserved to be loved - despite my husband’s efforts. Those mean words from family, friends & foes alike did indeed hurt me. Even worse, I sometimes say mean things about me to me. Overcoming painful words isn’t easy bc whatever gets to you first you believe - even if it’s a lie. Then we’re faced trying to uproot the lie with the truth which is hard to do. Stinking thinking I call it. This is why I renew my mind about me daily. I have to tell myself that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I have to tell myself that I deserve what I have & more. I have tell myself I am lovable. Its imperative that I tell myself of my good so that I can believe the truth about me.
The name “First Wives Club” is not to imply you have to be his first wife. My only consideration is that you are a wife with a desire for your marriage. First Wives Club is a reminder of our priority and position as wives. We matter most & we often fade behind other valid, important things and reasons. It’s time that we assert who we are in our role and rise up strong for our marriage. We are worthy, pretty & valuable. You were selected to be the one. In fact, your husband made the best choice of his life when he chose you. So we must honor ourselves & our marriage by bringing our best selves to our relationship and taking our position as first. #firstwivesclub
Author: Denise Taylor
I’m on a mission to help professional women thrive. Hear me loud & clear... Don’t Settle. You can have it all. I live a blessed life & you can too.