It’s been an incredible season of celebration for me. I feel as if I’ve been floating on a cloud. It’s been refreshing and rewarding in many, many ways. I’ve celebrated some great life & relationship milestones. My truth is I’ve taken so much in life for granted but I’m so thankful that I’ve learned that love is truly valuable to me.
I am thankful for my husband. He is truly my life partner. I’ve embraced the reality that we are growing old together and that is a beautiful treasure to me now. I wish I could say I’ve always felt so calm, free and loving but I’d be lying. I spent so many years being uptight and anxious about everything.
I had to learn that love blossoms. It grows. And when you work against it, you stifle its development.
I had to learn that my husband is not only my friend, he is my mate. And together we match to make a whole - not a pair.
I had to learn that I need him in my life which is far greater than wanting him in my life. Needs exceed wants. I can’t live my life without my needs.
I had to learn that I was being foolish to expect him to be perfect. No one is. We all need grace, including my imperfect self.
I had to learn that I could not get weary in helping him, regardless of how much help he needs. After all, I am his helpmeet - so how can I trip when my help is required.
I had to learn the power of agreement, the power of being on one accord. We are unstoppable when we touch & agree. It’s a struggle when we are not on the same page. Period.
I had to learn that complaining is just a selfish way to talk yourself out of it.
I had to learn that hard times did indeed make me more resourceful. I learned to make $1 out of 15 cents.
I had to learn that intimacy was more than sex. That discovering what brought me pleasure was ok. And it was ok to feel good about my desires.
I had to learn that finances did not dictate my happiness. I could be content with what we had and what we could afford once I stopped comparing.
I had to learn that I was responsible for my happiness and that I should never relinquish that control to anyone.
Loving myself has become my priority. Until I grew to do this in the most sincere and dedicated way, nothing else lined up. I strive everyday to empower myself which in turn frees me to excel in every area of my life. My journey has been full of ups and downs. But I wouldn’t trade nothing for my journey now - not one thing.
Cheers to many more celebrations of life & love. Thank you for all your well wishes. I appreciate them all. Thank you for being a part of the First Wives Club.
Author: Denise Taylor
I’m on a mission to help professional women thrive. Hear me loud & clear... Don’t Settle. You can have it all. I live a blessed life & you can too.