Now this may be too real for some but it is sooo true, esp if you & your husband started out HOT 🔥. Many relationships start off fiery. All steamy. The romance is on 10. The loving is good & exciting. We’re all goo-goo eyes with feelings reeling in passion - THEN reality sets in just after the moon ... the honeymoon. Now I know you can’t say much bc you kept your business tight but it got a little difficult when reality hit. You soon realized after the “I do’s” were done and real life normalcy set in that it wasn’t exactly what you thought. Yep, the heat was on and your vision was foggy. Lust does that. Then reality calls for love. Love demands more and you weren’t ready. In fact, you might’ve felt hoodwinked or bamboozled bc love demands sacrifice.
I cracked up when I listened to the podcast that I posted the other day and the host was sharing with her husband what he used to do was what she desired. She told him what he did when they were dating. Only to hear him say, “That’s too much to keep up.” Lol 😂. We’ve all been there in some way. Lust painted a picture that wasn’t deep enough for love. And we find ourselves in the thick of things, being challenged to give more. Love requires sacrifice. Even if you read about LOVE in the scripture you’ll quickly see it demands more. When you said “you loved him” you likely didn’t know the depth it would require you to go, give or do.
The good news is we all have the capacity and ability to love. We just have to decide to. Yes, we CAN love even the unloveable - it just will require more from us. This is why you must have some depth to who you are as a person because love will need to tap into your deep.
Have you really absorbed the description of love? Many have it read at their wedding but have you really taken it in? It is pure sacrifice. Here it is: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
We can love our husband - even if it began with lust. It will require YOU to sacrifice. But you can do it. Lust burns. Love prevails. Focus on loving and you will be loved in return. #firstwivesclub
Author: Denise Taylor
I’m on a mission to help professional women thrive. Hear me loud & clear... Don’t Settle. You can have it all. I live a blessed life & you can too.