We’re good at keeping up appearances and showing up glowing when all the while our truth is likely far less. Not that we have to be a “walking pity party” but we truly know how to floss for the ‘gram. Right angle, right light, cute selfie - boom I got “likes”.
We used to call this frontin’ back in the day. We’d put on a “front” or façade for others, mainly bc we wanted them to think we really had it going on. But often the truth was we didn’t - at least not as strong as we made it appear. And now, with social media, the whole frontin’ game has leveled up! We each get our very own stage to show up bigger on even if it is just for a few seconds as they scroll by. It even amazes me the expectations to be noticed so much that we’re keeping tabs & we’ll even say, “Hey, you didn’t like my post” or ask “Did you see it?”
Now, hear me out ... I’m not coming for anyone. Go ‘head & get your clout up. I’m not out to burst any bubbles or point out any fakes. But what I am after is helping us shift to authentically live the life we put on.
Making it seem like we’re all good, like we’ve got it going on, or like we have no issues - only creates misery for us when it’s time to face our true reality. Again, I’m not advocating we become a “walking pity party” but I am suggesting that we push ourselves to truly become all the good we display. Why? One, bc we truly deserve for it to be real! And, two, if we don’t ... when pressure is put on us & our front, we risk embarrassment and disappointment when truth is revealed.
Pressure increases the stakes and typically introduces angst and panic. When real pressure comes, there is no time to put on airs or a front. In moments of pressure, who we really are is revealed. You see, when pressure is put on anything, what’s in it - is what comes out.
Put pressure on a zit, pus comes out. Put pressure on a pea, the bean matter comes out. Put pressure on an orange, juice comes out. Put pressure on you - the real you comes out. And even more, put pressure on a relationship, the real relationship gets exposed. And, often times, what is “real” is not as good or as perfected as we “fronted” it to be.
This is why I am after helping us be authentically better than just a “front” by becoming who we truly want to be - both personally and relationally. You deserve life, love & the freedom to pursue your happiness. I’m focused on helping you make it all real - both on & off the ‘gram.
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Author: Denise Taylor
I’m on a mission to help professional women thrive. Hear me loud & clear... Don’t Settle. You can have it all. I live a blessed life & you can too.