TAKE A DEEP BREATH

​When all is well & good, we all can be happy but the truth is sometimes it ain’t as good as we want. Marriage is hard regardless the number of years under your belt. It needs constant attention and requires sacrifices on both parts nearly everyday - heck sometimes every hour. Whoever said it’s 50/50 was so confused and misleading to those of us that felt good about agreeing to those terms. I’ll be the first to say sometimes we’ll feel like it’s all on us and taking everything we got. And sometimes (right or wrong) we just don’t want to be so giving. The pressure to be a wife - let alone a good wife can be very demanding before it ever feels rewarding. We all want to be good at anything we do. This is why we have to learn to encourage ourselves daily. It’s a must. We have to take a deep breath and talk ourselves into it when we feel ourselves not wanting to be or do. We need to always remind ourselves that we are for our marriage. We must remind ourselves that we are on his team and we want to do well. That’s way I feel it’s important to WANT your marriage bc it’s easy to begin to release and let go of what you don’t want - esp when chaos, concern, or confusion arise. We have to stick to our resolve to be in it and maneuver all of our actions & words to that intention. We have to do more than just think it - we must say it so our ears can hear our resolve and our brain be reassured. Recently, I was frustrated with things so I started saying (to both myself & Chuck) “I’m on your team. I am Team Chuck.” After hearing me say it a few times. He got what I meant and doubled down by saying back to me “We are Team Taylor.” This was a reassurance that we are for each other that started with me reassuring him. It didn’t make the frustration go away. We still had to deal with it. Truth is - we still are dealing with it. But it was good when I asserted my resolve because all I can do is my part. The chaos we’re facing was first up against the force of me bc I chose to position myself for him. But soon it was up against US bc he chose to position himself for me in return. Breathe. Be encouraged and stick to your resolve for your marriage. Whatever you’re facing is just a chapter. You can win. Make your mind up to do so. #firstwivesclub