It was only recently that I started to understand the value and importance of celebrating life, milestones, and us. I took so much for granted and bc celebrations weren’t common place for me growing up it was not my norm to expect or plan them. I didn’t have birthday parties as a kid and would often gloss over the day just as if it was any other day. My good friend was the complete opposite and celebrated a lot and over the top. It was hanging with her that challenged me to change my perspective. And I am so glad I did.
This weekend Chuck & I are set to celebrate our 25th Wedding Anniversary. Our actual anniversary is Christmas Eve. I really feel like 25 years snuck up on us. I kinda remember the single digit anniversaries but nothing significant stands out & celebrations were few. Heck, I think we both were like “Whew, we made it another year” bc those early years were tough. We were actually separated by the time our 1st anniversary even came around. But thank goodness we got it together by the 2nd. I do remember hitting 10 years in complete amazement but if I am honest the teen years were all a blur. Family life was in full effect and since I wasn’t deliberate to celebrate not much stands out at all.
Well times have changed and I truly enjoy celebrating all I can now. Everything isn’t a party though. And though I enjoy partying with the best of them, I am learning to truly appreciate the small everyday gestures just as much. It’s an intentional effort to recognize and bask in the moment. I forgot to do that as much as I should’ve along the way. I admonish everyone to truly enjoy the journey. Enjoy the moments that make you smile, moments that make your heart flutter and moments that make your toes quiver. Enjoy it all. Treat a takeout meal you grabbed on the way home to share together in the same way you would an 8 course meal at a Michelin Star restaurant. Being together, loving one another, embracing one another, listening to one another and celebrating together is the most satisfying feeling that you deserve and are blessed to experience. Yes, you deserve it.
We are set to celebrate our anniversary this weekend and I am elated. I’ve made it a big deal because we deserve it. I am looking forward to seeing so many beautiful faces of family and friends. I am glad my good friend showed me how to celebrate life and everything in it. I’ve learned to stop denying myself the celebrations. Take the opportunity to celebrate your marriage - even at year 6, go all out. Don’t wait for milestones. Your marriage is a precious covenant that is yours to have and to hold. It’s valuable and it’s yours forever. Esteem it and even relish in it.
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Author: Denise Taylor
I’m on a mission to help professional women thrive. Hear me loud & clear... Don’t Settle. You can have it all. I live a blessed life & you can too.