Well ladies, my beautiful wife friends, another year is nearing an end and it’s always a great time for reflection. We consider what went right, what went wrong, what could be better and all the reasons in between. But the bottom line, especially when we consider our marriage relationship is WE MADE IT - together with him. It likely hasn’t been easy though I’m not sure we signed up for easy when we signed up for love. Take a minute and reflect on your love that’s made it despite everything that came at your commitment. You are an overcomer. He is, too. Never discount that. It’s extremely valuable. Everyday together proves you can outlast.
While reflection often recognizes growth achieved, it also acknowledges growth needed. Man, I’ve missed the mark a time or two this year. I made mountains out of molehills. I fussed when silence would’ve been a far greater strategy. I frustrated my husband with unnecessary antics. And I complained harshly when he tried. I thank goodness for the inspiration to start the First Wives Club bc it’s been a great introspective journey to show me both my opportunities and my potential. It’s revealed to me that I truly love my husband and I want my marriage. He’s worth it and I want to thrive together. Not bc we’re perfect but bc we are committed to one another and that exceeds perfection.
Going into 2020, a new year - a new decade even, I’ve decided to fully be Chuck’s wife. Its not a title I have or a role I play - it’s who I am. It’s my primary or first position (hence the First Wives Club) and I am reporting for duty daily. Crazy to think that after 25 years of marriage I’d feel so compelled to go further but I truly desire to thrive as a wife. And I want him to thrive as my husband. I believe we reap what we sow so I’m sowing what I want to see. I’m renewing my resolve to thrive in my rightful position and I hope to encourage each of you to do the same.
We (as wives) carry a lot of power and our family truly needs us to harness that power to save ourselves, our marriage and our family. Our vows were sacred and we made a godly commitment to one another that calls for us to release the power that we possess for the sake of our marriage. That power is our strength to uphold what we promised,
“to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge myself to you."
Yes, it’s a lot. Love demands sacrifice. But you are powerful beyond measure and can do it. Don’t get weary in well doing. Declare to thrive as a wife in 2020 & beyond not because it will ever be easy - but because it will always be worth it. You got this, my dear friend. Thrive. Happy New Year 🥂
Here at First Wives Club, we are for you & your marriage. Our goal is to support you as a wife. We recognize being a wife is likely one of the hardest things you’ll ever do but we believe you can win. You’re in the right position to do so. #firstwivesclub #FWClive
Author: Denise Taylor
I’m on a mission to help professional women thrive. Hear me loud & clear... Don’t Settle. You can have it all. I live a blessed life & you can too.