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My name is Sanobia Herd and I have been married to Derek Herd for 21 years. We currently reside in Centerville, OH.
Derek and I were High School Sweethearts (graduated June 1991). I know that's an anomaly and many question "How does THAT happen?" To be honest, I'm not sure. I am a true extrovert and Derek is an introvert, but he made the first move, LOL! At that time, I was going 1,000 miles per minute. He was about 50 miles per minute. He wasn't going at my pace, but he was cute and very intelligent (I'm sort of a sapiosexual).
We have always had the type of relationship where it's been extremely easy for us to communicate with one another. I felt a calmness in him. I was surprised that he was the same age as I was, but the conversations that I could hold with him were the same caliber and quality (if not better) than the older guys I had dated (yes, I was the type of female that dated guys at least 2-3 years older than I was). We have been apart from one another more times than I can count due to College & jobs), but those barriers never lasted and our hearts never allowed us to be apart too long.
We were engaged Summer of 1997 and Married March 20, 1999. Derek wanted to make sure he had the "right" job/ career and could truly provide for a Family before he proposed to me. Derek values Family and those he loves. When I realized that, I knew that I had to be a part of his world. Granted, no one is perfect and we have had to work through our flaws and hurdles. He loves me no matter how difficult I could be. I say COULD because in these 21 years, I have grown....WE have grown together, but NEVER apart.
Always have patience with your Husband and openly communicate with him(no matter unpleasant the subject).
In the midst of your Husband's storms, be his peace and support. VERBALLY REITERATE you are there for him and reaffirm your love. Men LOVE to hear they're loved too.
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