Wife Spotlights share their love story & love lessons.
Hi! my name is Shelley. I’m from Tall Timbers, MD, and the giant I am kissing in the picture is my husband, James. This is actually a picture taken during one of the first trips we took when we started dating in college. It hangs in our bedroom, and it is one of the first pictures he put up when we moved.
We have known each other for 28 years, been together for 18 years, married for 13. We have two beautiful children together (a 7-year-old boy and an almost 3-year-old girl). I was once taller than he was and have the pictures buried somewhere to prove it. The first time we met, we were 11 and 12. Our aunts were-and are still-best friends, and they lived together in the same house. Today, they live on the same street in Florida. The shared history of our childhoods often makes our adult lives easier and harder simultaneously. Easy because we practically knew the same people growing up, hard because if one of us screws up on one side of the family, it trickles down to the other side of the family. but I do know that we are loved, and we have a huge support system.
I guess my “wife wisdom” would be: marry someone who fills in your gaps and supports you. Where he has his head in the clouds, I am the one following behind with the string going “yes, but how is this going to…” where I freak out, he steps in and is the calm one. He supported me being a stay at home mom and encouraged me to become a freelance editor because he knew I would be unhappy if I couldn’t help support us. I, in turn, support him when he goes to comic cons and book fests to sell his books and comics. When I work at night, he takes over the kids, and he is a great dad. We both think each other’s families are crazy, but it works.
Thoughts on first wives club: it’s a great resource to have. We should use this platform to support and encourage each other.