Wife Spotlights share their love story & love lessons.
On October 15th, of this year my husband and I would have been married for 9 years. I honestly never saw it coming. We actually met at work. I’ve always been against dating someone from work. When I started at that job I was in a serious relationship and engaged to someone else. For the first year of working there I barely even noticed Orren. It wasn’t until I left my ex and started seeing Orren around town outside of work that I thought he would be cool to hang out with. Initially, we were just friends. I had no interest in him outside of being friends. We’d chat at work, work out at the gym after work, and kee kee after that. Eventually, our friendship grew into a relationship. Which scared me a little because not only was he nothing like the type of guys I was used to, but I valued our friendship. However, it just felt right.
From the beginning, Orren jumped in and took weights off my shoulder left and right. I was working full time, a single mother of an elementary school child, and just started going back to school. He watched Kaiheli so I can go to school at night. He took over homework duty. ( which he does to this day) He understood that I was a package deal and my son loved him. It’s like Orren was the missing puzzle piece to our lives.
11 years later and we are still friends in addition to being married. I think because we started out with a true friendship is why our relationship has been so easy. I see all the issues people have in their relationships and honestly, we’ve never had that. I can’t stay mad at him for longer than a few hours and we talk everything out. We’ve both grown so much since the beginning and even through our individual growth we love who we’ve grown to be. We encourage either other and we are cheerleaders for each other.
Orren’s my favorite person travel with, cut up with, and just spend time around. I’m the most comfortable to just be myself with him. My best friend always say we need a show because we are the house cutting up all the time, laughing telling jokes. (roasting each other, lol)
My Wife Wisdom is to be with the person you are compatible with. Marriage shouldn’t feel like work. As you get older you both will change, Can you survive life’s ups and downs with this person and still like them at the end of the day? I said like, not love. Like is what’s left after the honeymoon phase. Because you can love someone and not like who they are.
The First Wives Club is a safe space to have discussions about marriage with other like-minded individuals. If you have a question or just want to talk it out, know that someone in there understands where you are coming from and can give viable feedback.