NOV 2019: AISHA LOVELESS

While I have over 17 years of marriage under my belt, I am still a student of love, respect, and honor. I cannot pretend to know all answers, but I can say that we must be doing something right to have made it this far. But we still have so far to go. We married young and I often say that we are growing up together. In addition to prayer and fasting, the other two elements that work for our marriage are communication and trust. If we are unable to talk our differences out (and agree to disagree sometimes), then things will fester and rot. This in turn snowballs into long term anger and can ultimately manifest itself into physical ailments. It’s important to talk and communicate even if it hurts. Trust is the second element to our marriage. My husband travels to different states for work from Monday through Friday EACH WEEK! He comes home on the weekends. That is the nature of his job. This has been our “normal” for the last 6 years. If I didn’t trust him and he didn’t trust me, this set up would not work. Giving him the space he needs to be the leader at work that he needs to be is important for us. It pays the bills!! I also have a demanding job, so having the added stress of worrying about his whereabouts and what he’s doing every hour is not beneficial to us nor is it fair for us. With trust, comes respect. I trust and respect his independence just as much as I trust and respect him as my husband. There has to be a balance.

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