SEP 2020: CAROL YOUNG

From the moment our paths crossed in October 1988 our lives literally changed forever. What seemed like a chance encounter between Tim and I was in fact the absolute beginning of our story, our history and our marital journey.  We fell in love, we were extremely happy, and at the start of our relationship we were inseparable.  From that first moment until now, we’ve shared 32 years of our lives together.  Twenty of which we’ve been married for.  We reside in Milwaukee, WI with our family and operate a consulting business.  Overall, I’d say that we are truly blessed.  
Having lived and spent more than half of our lives together, I can honestly say that we’ve had our share of challenges.  We were quite young when we had gotten together and there were so many things that we needed to learn.  As life continued to move forward for us and we began to settle into our marriage, we both knew that there were some things that needed to change in order for our union to flourish.  We then began to talk with God and read His Word to learn what we needed to do.  We began to include Him in every major aspect of our lives.  We would pray separately for one another as well as pray together daily.  We started communicating more effectively and became more patient, attentive and forgiving towards one another.  We learned each other’s love languages and incorporated date night into our weekly rotation.  We also began attending couple’s counseling sessions which helped us tremendously.
What we also came to realize is that everything that we were going through in our marriage, whether good or bad was a part of our life’s story and that these experiences are what make our story unique from anyone else’s.  Today, I can unequivocally say that after so many years as husband and wife, I really understand, respect and appreciate our life together.  Our story has a lot of significance to who we were in our past as well as speaks volumes as to who we are now in our present.  We cherish our story because of the history and the substance of what our story has been built from.  Our journey hasn’t always been smooth but what has always been constant and clear in our marriage is our love for one another.  We began to envision what we wanted our marriage to look like and what it should be. We’ve learned to embrace that vision wholeheartedly and to take the necessary steps toward making that vision our reality. We continue to put the work in and allow our marriage to evolve into what God has intended for it to be. We are committed to creating the perfect marriage just for us.  We’re definitely excited to continue our marital journey and to create more history to include to our amazing, beautiful and unique story.
What I value and appreciate most about the First Wives Club is the support, transparency, encouragement and real conversations from so many amazing women. I love the topics that are discussed and the strength of the women that are a part of the group. I love that the women are so open to learn from and share with other women. I value the sisterhood and the connection that is being developed. This group is what we all need to help us to become better partners and better wives for our husbands.

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