Wife Spotlights share their love story & love lessons.
Scott and I met in middle school as we grew up about a mile away from each other. We knew each other from age 13 to age 18, but then lost touch after high school. Along came Facebook, and we reconnected there as friends around 2012. Through plentiful conversations, we found out that we had a lot in common and had crossed paths numerous times between the ages of 18 and 41 - from college, to concerts and Milwaukee events, and even where we were living at certain points in our lives. Our connection grew stronger as we talked, and we eventually started dating in 2013. We both came from broken relationships and trauma, so we took time to clear some of our baggage before getting too serious. We worked on ourselves and worked on us as a couple. Those actions really paid off! We dated for 8 years as we worked on these things and continued to be better human beings. Our goal was to be the best "me" we could be for each other. We tied the knot on September 5, 2021 and as all of our friends and family said, "It was about time."
I have three bits of wisdom to share as a wife. 1) Always remember that you and your husband ultimately share the same goals. This comes in handy when disagreements occur. 2) Never be short on compliments. Tell your husband he's handsome, and smart, and is really good at the things he does. A little sweetness goes a long way (and is often reciprocated). And 3) Always put God first in your marriage. He gave us instructions to live a fulfilled life and if we put Him first, we eliminate some of the negativity that can show up in relationships.
First Wives Club is an amazing group that puts the focus where it should be: that wives (and husbands) should be important. It's so easy to put importance on other things, to put our marriages aside while we manage careers and kids. But when we consider that our marriage should be at the forefront, then we will reach the goal of the First Wives Club, which is not to be perfect, but to grow old together through love, encouragement, support, and service to each other.